Several years ago, I wrote a blog post revealing that I am a huge fan of mixed martial arts and comparing the Unified Family Courts with the Ultimate Fighting Championship (“UFC”). The main point of the post: both the Unified Family Courts and the UFC may be interesting to observe, but I would never want to be a participant in either as it would be too painful.
Interestingly, the UFC has a maxim that applies to most family law situations: “Never Leave It In The Hands Of The Judges.” In both situations, this applies because no matter how persuasive you are, or how hard you fight, when you let judges decide your fate, you are giving up control of the outcome and your future. Further, as wise and dedicated as judges are, they can get things wrong.
Fortunately, there are alternatives, including uncontested divorces, mediation, and Collaborative Divorce. This post will focus on why you want to reach an out-of-court agreement rather than rely on contested court hearings.
Judges Are Not Your Friend
It is common at the end of UFC fights, when all rounds are over but before the judges have made a decision, for both fighters to raise their hands in victory. Both fighters’ cornermen will tell them that they won. Then the decision comes, and one fighter loses. That fighter’s cornermen will tell them that they were robbed. They were not. They left it in the hands of the judges.