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COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE AND FAMILY LAW IN FLORIDA. No matter how you look at it, divorce and family law matters are difficult to go through. Expectations of stability are shattered,

mistrust grows, and bills pile up. And then the litigation begins. Attorneys file and serve petitions, counterpetitions, requests to produce, and motions to compel. Each party hires dueling mental health experts to convince a judge that he or she should have more time with the children. Privacy is eliminated as each party’s life is probed and publicly questioned so that one side may gain a tactical advantage.

But there is a different way. A more civilized way. And it is called Collaborative Family Law (also known as Collaborative Divorce or Collaborative Practice).

We are a Collaborative law firm dedicated to helping people resolve personal disputes without destroying their families. We encourage the use of the Collaborative Family Law model in divorce, child custody, child support, alimony, post-judgment, prenuptial, and most other family law cases. Further, Adam B. Cordover is an internationally-recognized leader in Collaborative Practice, a trainer who teaches other professionals how to help families Collaboratively, and author of an upcoming American Bar Association book on Collaborative Law.

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How Doctors Divorce in Florida

How Doctors Divorce in Florida: A Smarter, Private, Team-Based Approach

Divorce is challenging. But for physicians and their spouses, it can come with extra layers—like valuing a medical practice, protecting reputation and sensitive financial data, and balancing a demanding career with family obligations. If you or your spouse is a doctor in Florida, Collaborative Divorce offers a way to handle your separation with professionalism, privacy, and support.

At Family Diplomacy: A Collaborative Law Firm, we’ve worked with doctors and high-net-worth families across the state. We understand the unique financial and emotional dynamics at play—and how to guide you through them with dignity.

A Private Divorce Process That Respects Your Profession

Collaborative Divorce discussions and decisions take place outside of court. Instead of leaving decisions up to a judge, you and your spouse work with a team of professionals to reach solutions together. This is especially helpful when one or both of you are physicians with complicated schedules, licenses, or business interests at stake.

Just like you may work with other healthcare professionals in a hospital or practice setting—surgeons, anesthesiologists, nurses, administrators—a Collaborative Divorce uses an interdisciplinary team. Your team likely will include two lawyers (one for each of you), a neutral facilitator (who is a licensed mental health professional to deal with challenging conversations head on and craft a tailored parenting plan), and a neutral financial professional (to efficiently gather mandatory disclosure and help develop bespoke financial options). Each team member brings their own area of expertise to help the family function better and get through the divorce.

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What’s In A Collaborative Participation Agreement?

May 26, 2025/in Collaborative Divorce, Divorce //Tags: collaborative attorney, collaborative divorce, collaborative facilitator, collaborative family law, collaborative financial professional, Collaborative Law, collaborative mental health professional, collaborative practice, dissolution of marriage, divorce, International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, Tampa Bay Collaborative Divorce, Tampa Bay Collaborative Family Lawby Adam

If you and your spouse agree to use the Collaborative Divorce process in Florida, one of the first steps you’ll take is signing a Collaborative Participation Agreement. This agreement sets the tone for a respectful, private, and team-supported process to resolve your divorce without fighting in court. It’s a powerful document that helps you and your spouse stay focused on resolution instead of conflict. And, because the rules of Collaborative Divorce are so different than the old-style adversarial divorce options, it is important that you understand what you and your spouse are signing yourselves up for.

Below is a summary of what our law firm’s most commonly used Collaborative Participation Agreement includes—and why it matters to you. You will also find the text of our current Collaborative Participation Agreement below (please note that your Collaborative Participation Agreement may vary from the one below).

Who’s on Your Team?

In a Collaborative Divorce, each spouse has their own separate lawyer so that each of you can speak freely and get independent legal advice. These lawyers don’t act as adversaries—instead, they work together to help both of you reach a solution. In your case, one of the attorneys may be Adam B. Cordover, a leader in Florida’s Collaborative Law movement and co-author of the American Bar Association’s book Building a Successful Collaborative Family Law Practice. Adam has trained professionals across the U.S. and abroad and brings deep knowledge of complex financial matters.

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This is the most common model of Collaborative Divorce used in Florida.

You’ll also likely have:

A Neutral Facilitator – A licensed mental health professional who is a communication specialist, team leader to keep discussions progressing (rather than focused on the fights of the past), and expert of childhood development to help craft a parenting plan tailored to your kids’ needs (if there are children).
A Neutral Financial Professional – A financial expert who helps efficiently gather required documents (known as “mandatory disclosure”), educate both spouses so that each understands what is in the marital bucket before expected to make long-lasting decisions, and build realistic support and property division options that work for your family.
Collaborative Assistant – A volunteer notetaker. The Collaborative Assistant agrees to the same confidentiality rules as the other professionals. He or she takes notes during meetings so that your professionals can focus in real time on tending to your family’s needs.

Other specialists, like child or business valuation experts, can be brought in if needed.

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Why LGBTQ+ Professionals Choose Collaborative Divorce in Florida

May 18, 2025/in LGBT Family Law Matters, Collaborative Divorce //Tags: bisexual divorce, collaborative attorney, collaborative divorce, collaborative facilitator, collaborative family law, collaborative financial professional, Collaborative Law, collaborative mental health professional, collaborative practice, dissolution of marriage, divorce, florida divorce, gay and lesbian couples, gay and lesbian parents, gay divorce, gay marriage, gay marriage ban, lesbian divorce, LGBT family law, LGBTQ+, LGBTQ+ divorce, parenting plan, private divorce, same sex couples, same sex divorce, same sex marriage, same-sex parents, Tampa Bay Collaborative Divorce, Tampa Bay Collaborative Family Law, transgender divorceby Adam

As an LGBTQ+ professional, you may already be carrying the weight of navigating a world that does not always recognize or protect your family the way it should. Whether you are “out” or prefer to keep parts of your personal life private, these times can feel especially heavy. Sadly, you may feel like many LGBTQ+ families today—under attack—whether from unfair legislation, social judgment, or even your own community.

When you are going through a divorce, the last thing you need is to have your private life, financial matters, or parenting decisions laid bare in a public courtroom. That’s why many LGBTQ+ professionals turn to Collaborative Divorce—a private, respectful, and forward-thinking way to resolve family matters without fighting in court.

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Comparing 4 Models of Collaborative Divorce

May 4, 2025/in Collaborative Divorce //Tags: collaborative attorney, collaborative divorce, collaborative facilitator, collaborative family law, collaborative financial professional, Collaborative Law, collaborative mental health professional, collaborative practice, dissolution of marriage, divorce, Tampa Bay Collaborative Divorce, Tampa Bay Collaborative Family Lawby Adam

Collaborative Divorce is a private process where both you and your spouse work together, with the support of various professionals, to reach a mutually agreeable resolution without fighting in court. This blog post compares and contrasts four models—Lawyer-Only, Collaborative Mediation, Neutral Facilitator, and Two-Coach—each offering unique strengths and approaches.* By understanding the roles and benefits of each, you and your spouse can make an informed decision that best supports your family’s needs.

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Special Needs Children and Collaborative Divorce

April 27, 2025/in Kids, Collaborative Divorce //Tags: child custody, child support, collaborative attorney, collaborative divorce, collaborative facilitator, collaborative family law, collaborative financial professional, Collaborative Law, collaborative mental health professional, collaborative practice, dissolution of marriage, divorce, florida divorce, parental responsibility, parenting plan, Tampa Bay Collaborative Divorce, Tampa Bay Collaborative Family Law, time-sharingby Adam

Going through divorce is never easy. But when you are raising a child with special needs, the challenges — both emotional and financial — can feel overwhelming. You need a process that protects your child, respects your family’s future, and helps you work through the difficult moments with dignity.

That’s where Collaborative Divorce can make a world of difference. At Family Diplomacy: A Collaborative Law Firm, we are here to guide you through this private divorce process with care, compassion, and expertise.

A Collaborative Facilitator Can Tailor a Parenting Plan for Special Needs

In a traditional Florida divorce, parenting plans often focus on basics like overall decision-making, weekly schedules, and holidays. But if your child has special needs, you already know that their world is more complex.

In Collaborative Divorce, a neutral Collaborative Facilitator — a licensed mental health professional — works with both parents to develop a parenting plan tailored to your child’s specific requirements. Some examples include:

Coordinating medical treatments, therapies, and specialized education
Managing transitions between households in a way that supports emotional regulation
Planning for transportation and access to services that may not be available in every community
Creating ways for both parents to participate meaningfully in decisions about your child’s care and development

Instead of battling over who gets “more time,” the Facilitator helps both parents stay focused on what your child needs most to thrive.

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Divorcing in a Down Market – Pros and Cons

April 13, 2025/in Marital Assets, Business, Collaborative Divorce //Tags: collaborative divorce, collaborative family law, collaborative financial professional, Collaborative Law, collaborative practice, dissolution of marriage, divorce, equitable distribution, florida divorce, investing, Tampa Bay Collaborative Divorceby Adam

Should You Divorce During a Down Market? Understanding the Pros and Cons
How market volatility, long-term investing, and the Collaborative Divorce process intersect

When the markets drop, your investments, retirement accounts, and even business valuations may look very different than they did just a few months ago. If you’re considering divorce in a time like this—especially after recent economic turbulence and tariffs—it’s natural to feel uncertain. But believe it or not, there may be strategic advantages to divorcing during a down market, particularly if you approach the process thoughtfully.

✅ Pro: A Unique Opportunity for Buy-and-Hold Investors

If you’re a long-term investor who believes the market will eventually recover (as history suggests it usually does), a down market may present a silver lining. Here’s why:

Let’s say part of your marital estate includes mutual funds, ETFs, or stocks that have dipped in value. If you receive those investments as part of your divorce agreement, you’re essentially getting more shares at a lower “price tag.” Over time, if the market rebounds, those shares may significantly increase in value—benefiting you in the long run.

In other words, if you’re a buy-and-hold investor, receiving a larger portion of your share of marital assets in investments during a downturn could position you well for future growth. You’re not just accepting lower-value assets—you’re planting seeds for potential recovery and wealth.

⚠️ Con: Lower Valuations Can Lead to Complications

Of course, not everything is rosy in a down market. If your marital assets include real estate, business interests, or retirement accounts, their reduced value may cause concern. One spouse might feel they’re losing out if an asset is divided when its value is temporarily depressed.

Also, dividing investments or retirement accounts during a low point can create tension, especially if one party is more risk-averse. This is where fear and conflict can escalate—unless you have a process in place to manage it.

🤝 How Collaborative Divorce Can Help

In a traditional court-based divorce, you may find yourself locked in a tug-of-war over who “wins” and who “loses” financially. But in a Collaborative Divorce, you and your spouse commit to resolving issues together, outside of court, with the support of a professional team. Each of you have your own separate lawyers prohibited from taking your case to court and to give you independent legal advice, and there are usually also neutral specialists to help in finances and family dynamics.

Here’s how it helps in a down market:

Customized Financial Scenarios: A neutral financial professional can work with both spouses to explain investment values, simulate recovery scenarios, and suggest creative ways to divide assets based on both of your interests and risk tolerances—even in uncertain times.
Avoiding a Fire Sale: Collaborative teams counsel you to maintain the status quo until there is an agreement to do otherwise, which can help you avoid the rush to liquidate investments, allowing you to stay true to your long-term financial strategy.
Preserving Relationships: Especially important if you’re co-parenting, Collaborative Divorce helps you reduce stress and focus on your future, not just your fears.

👤 Led by a Trusted Collaborative Professional

Adam B. Cordover is a leader in Collaborative Divorce, having trained lawyers, financial professionals, and mental health experts throughout the U.S., Canada, Israel, and France. He also co-authored Building a Successful Collaborative Family Law Practice, a book published by the American Bar Association. With deep experience in complex financial matters, Adam can help guide you through divorce in a way that protects your goals and honors your long-term financial values.

💬 We Can Help

If you’re facing divorce during a volatile market, you’re not alone—and you have options. We can help you make informed, thoughtful decisions that protect your future. Contact Family Diplomacy: A Collaborative Law Firm by clicking the button below.

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Family Diplomacy: A Collaborative Law Firm has a virtual practice and represents clients in South Florida, Central Florida, and North Florida. We also have offices in Tampa, St. Petersburg, and Sarasota.

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Imputing Income on Investments for Alimony & Child Support in a Florida Divorce

March 16, 2025/in Alimony, Child Support, Collaborative Divorce //Tags: alimony, child support, collaborative divorce, collaborative family law, collaborative financial professional, Collaborative Law, collaborative practice, dissolution of marriage, divorce, investing, spousal supportby Adam

When you go through a divorce, how much income you and your spouse can earn may become important for purposes of calculating alimony or child support. If one or both of you have investments and savings—like stocks, rental properties, or savings accounts—these assets may count as income, even if they are not bringing in cash every month. This process is called imputing income on investments.

In a courtroom divorce, each of you would likely hire your own financial expert to argue about how much income should be counted. This often leads to a battle of “dueling experts,” which can be stressful and expensive. But in a Collaborative Divorce, you and your spouse can work with one neutral financial professional to come to a fair decision together.

What Does It Mean to Impute Income?

Imputing income means estimating how much money an investment could make, even if it is not currently earning income. For example:

A rental property that is sitting empty could still be rented out, and the potential rental income can be counted.
A stock portfolio may not pay dividends every year, but it has a history of earning money and growing in value.
A savings account could be invested to earn interest instead of just sitting unused.

By imputing income, you ensure that all financial resources are considered when calculating support payments, helping both spouses and children receive the support they need.

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Collaborative Divorce: Who is Right for It & What Is It?

March 13, 2025/in Collaborative Divorce, Divorce //Tags: collaborative divorceby Jesse Mount

When people think of divorce, they often picture contentious court battles, high stress, and significant financial strain. But what if there was a better way? Adam B. Cordover, a leader in private dispute resolution, believes there is—and it’s called Collaborative Divorce.

What Is Collaborative Divorce?

Collaborative Divorce is an alternative dispute resolution process designed to help separating couples reach an agreement without a public and contentious court battle. As Cordover explains, “Each spouse has their own separate attorneys, and the attorneys are there solely for the purpose of reaching an out-of-court agreement.” This means that no energy, time, or money is spent fighting in court. Instead, the focus is on cooperation and crafting a resolution that meets the needs of both spouses.
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Are Real Estate Syndications Considered Marital Property in a Florida Divorce?

February 16, 2025/in Divorce, Collaborative Divorce, Marital Assets //Tags: antenuptial agreement, collaborative attorney, collaborative divorce, collaborative family law, collaborative financial professional, Collaborative Law, collaborative practice, dissolution of marriage, divorce, equitable distribution, florida divorce, marital asset, non-marital assets, postmarital agreement, postnuptial agreement, pre-marital assets, premarital agreement, prenuptial agreement, separate asset, Tampa Bay Collaborative Divorce, Tampa Bay Collaborative Family Lawby Adam

Real estate syndications have become a popular investment strategy for high-net-worth individuals and savvy investors seeking passive income and portfolio diversification. However, if you are facing a divorce in Florida, you may be wondering: Is my investment in a real estate syndication considered marital property? And if so, how is it valued and divided?

The answer depends on several factors, including when the investment was made, how it was funded, and whether any legal agreements protect it. In this post, we’ll explore how Florida law treats real estate syndications in divorce and what you need to know about valuation and division.

Are Real Estate Syndications Marital Property in Florida?

In Florida, marital property includes assets acquired by either spouse during the marriage, regardless of whose name is on the title or investment documents. Conversely, nonmarital (or separate) property includes assets acquired before the marriage, through inheritance, or via a gift from a third party.

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How Tax Loss Harvesting Can Turn Non-Marital Investments Into Marital Assets

February 9, 2025/in Separate Property, Collaborative Divorce, Marital Assets //Tags: collaborative attorney, collaborative divorce, collaborative facilitator, collaborative family law, collaborative financial professional, Collaborative Law, collaborative mental health professional, collaborative practice, dissolution of marriage, division of assets, divorce, equitable distribution, florida divorce, marital asset, non-marital assets, postmarital agreement, postnup, postnuptial agreement, pre-marital assets, premarital agreement, prenup, prenuptial agreement, property division, separate asset, Tampa Bay Collaborative Divorce, Tampa Bay Collaborative Family Lawby Adam

If you’re an investor going through a divorce, you likely have a keen eye on your finances. You may already be familiar with tax loss harvesting, a strategy that can help reduce your tax bill by selling investments at a loss to offset capital gains. While this technique can be a smart financial move, it can also have unintended consequences in divorce—potentially turning what you thought was your separate, non-marital property into a shared marital asset.

What Is Tax Loss Harvesting?*

Tax loss harvesting is a strategy that can be used to lower your tax liability. For example, if you have investments in a taxable brokerage account that have lost value, you can sell them at a loss to offset capital gains from other investments. This reduces your overall taxable income and can lead to significant tax savings.

There are many rules associated with tax loss harvesting. For example, you cannot sell a mutual fund at a loss and then immediately repurchase that same mutual fund. However, one strategy that many investors utilize is to sell one investment at a loss and then purchase a similar, but different, investment. For example, you might sell VTSAX, the Vanguard U.S. total stock market index fund, at a loss and purchase VFIAX, the Vanguard S&P 500 index fund, which is highly correlated with VTSAX. The White Coat Investor website has a really good explainer on tax loss harvesting.

Many investors use this approach as part of a long-term financial strategy, reinvesting the proceeds into different securities to maintain their investment portfolio. However, if you are going through a divorce, you must be careful about how and when you execute tax loss harvesting.

*Please note that we are not accountants, financial advisors, or tax lawyers, this information is not intended to provide advice, and this is for educational purposes only.