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Internal Family Systems Model: Bringing Compassion Into Divorce

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Going through divorce can stir up all kinds of emotions—anger, fear, sadness, even guilt. But for some, there may also be a part that feels relief—especially if you’ve been thinking about divorce for a long time and finally taken that first step. It’s not just about dividing property or deciding where the kids will live. It’s about navigating a major life change with all the different parts of yourself weighing in. One powerful way to make sense of it all is with the Internal Family Systems model, also known as IFS.

What is the Internal Family Systems Model?

IFS is a way of understanding yourself from the inside out. It helps you recognize that you’re made up of different parts—like the part of you that’s angry, the part that’s scared, the part that’s hopeful, and the part that just wants peace. These parts aren’t bad. They’re trying to protect you. But when one part takes over, it can be tough to communicate or make clear-headed decisions.

In the Collaborative Divorce process, we can use IFS concepts to help you tune into these parts and access your grounded, centered self—the one that can truly lead with compassion and confidence.

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How Doctors Divorce in Florida

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How Doctors Divorce in Florida: A Smarter, Private, Team-Based Approach

Divorce is challenging. But for physicians and their spouses, it can come with extra layers—like valuing a medical practice, protecting reputation and sensitive financial data, and balancing a demanding career with family obligations. If you or your spouse is a doctor in Florida, Collaborative Divorce offers a way to handle your separation with professionalism, privacy, and support.

At Family Diplomacy: A Collaborative Law Firm, we’ve worked with doctors and high-net-worth families across the state. We understand the unique financial and emotional dynamics at play—and how to guide you through them with dignity.

A Private Divorce Process That Respects Your Profession

Collaborative Divorce discussions and decisions take place outside of court. Instead of leaving decisions up to a judge, you and your spouse work with a team of professionals to reach solutions together. This is especially helpful when one or both of you are physicians with complicated schedules, licenses, or business interests at stake.

Just like you may work with other healthcare professionals in a hospital or practice setting—surgeons, anesthesiologists, nurses, administrators—a Collaborative Divorce uses an interdisciplinary team. Your team likely will include two lawyers (one for each of you), a neutral facilitator (who is a licensed mental health professional to deal with challenging conversations head on and craft a tailored parenting plan), and a neutral financial professional (to efficiently gather mandatory disclosure and help develop bespoke financial options). Each team member brings their own area of expertise to help the family function better and get through the divorce.

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Why LGBTQ+ Professionals Choose Collaborative Divorce in Florida

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As an LGBTQ+ professional, you may already be carrying the weight of navigating a world that does not always recognize or protect your family the way it should. Whether you are “out” or prefer to keep parts of your personal life private, these times can feel especially heavy. Sadly, you may feel like many LGBTQ+ families today—under attack—whether from unfair legislation, social judgment, or even your own community.

When you are going through a divorce, the last thing you need is to have your private life, financial matters, or parenting decisions laid bare in a public courtroom. That’s why many LGBTQ+ professionals turn to Collaborative Divorce—a private, respectful, and forward-thinking way to resolve family matters without fighting in court.

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Special Needs Children and Collaborative Divorce

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Going through divorce is never easy. But when you are raising a child with special needs, the challenges — both emotional and financial — can feel overwhelming. You need a process that protects your child, respects your family’s future, and helps you work through the difficult moments with dignity.

That’s where Collaborative Divorce can make a world of difference. At Family Diplomacy: A Collaborative Law Firm, we are here to guide you through this private divorce process with care, compassion, and expertise.

A Collaborative Facilitator Can Tailor a Parenting Plan for Special Needs

In a traditional Florida divorce, parenting plans often focus on basics like overall decision-making, weekly schedules, and holidays. But if your child has special needs, you already know that their world is more complex.

In Collaborative Divorce, a neutral Collaborative Facilitator — a licensed mental health professional — works with both parents to develop a parenting plan tailored to your child’s specific requirements. Some examples include:

  • Coordinating medical treatments, therapies, and specialized education
  • Managing transitions between households in a way that supports emotional regulation
  • Planning for transportation and access to services that may not be available in every community
  • Creating ways for both parents to participate meaningfully in decisions about your child’s care and development

Instead of battling over who gets “more time,” the Facilitator helps both parents stay focused on what your child needs most to thrive.

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St. Petersburg Divorce Lawyer Review: “[Sped] Up The Process…Eased the tension”

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I recently received a review from a divorce client on our St. Petersburg Google Page.  Please note that every case and circumstance is different, and I can’t promise the same or similar results in your matter.

It was a blessing to partner with Adam and Jennifer to help navigate me through the divorce process. They both were responsive, thorough and professional throughout the highs and lows of the process.

I found Adam’s advice to be logical, [rational] and while he certainly represented and protected my interests, he was also considerate and mindful to my ex-wife which was important to me. I believe this certainly [sped] up the process and eased the tension/relationship with her throughout the proceedings. He also took also took an intense interest in the protection and wellbeing of my son.

I will always be grateful to Adam and his team.

Five Stars.

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Divorcing in a Down Market – Pros and Cons

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Should You Divorce During a Down Market? Understanding the Pros and Cons
How market volatility, long-term investing, and the Collaborative Divorce process intersect

When the markets drop, your investments, retirement accounts, and even business valuations may look very different than they did just a few months ago. If you’re considering divorce in a time like this—especially after recent economic turbulence and tariffs—it’s natural to feel uncertain. But believe it or not, there may be strategic advantages to divorcing during a down market, particularly if you approach the process thoughtfully.

✅ Pro: A Unique Opportunity for Buy-and-Hold Investors

If you’re a long-term investor who believes the market will eventually recover (as history suggests it usually does), a down market may present a silver lining. Here’s why:

Let’s say part of your marital estate includes mutual funds, ETFs, or stocks that have dipped in value. If you receive those investments as part of your divorce agreement, you’re essentially getting more shares at a lower “price tag.” Over time, if the market rebounds, those shares may significantly increase in value—benefiting you in the long run.

In other words, if you’re a buy-and-hold investor, receiving a larger portion of your share of marital assets in investments during a downturn could position you well for future growth. You’re not just accepting lower-value assets—you’re planting seeds for potential recovery and wealth.

⚠️ Con: Lower Valuations Can Lead to Complications

Of course, not everything is rosy in a down market. If your marital assets include real estate, business interests, or retirement accounts, their reduced value may cause concern. One spouse might feel they’re losing out if an asset is divided when its value is temporarily depressed.

Also, dividing investments or retirement accounts during a low point can create tension, especially if one party is more risk-averse. This is where fear and conflict can escalate—unless you have a process in place to manage it.

🤝 How Collaborative Divorce Can Help

In a traditional court-based divorce, you may find yourself locked in a tug-of-war over who “wins” and who “loses” financially. But in a Collaborative Divorce, you and your spouse commit to resolving issues together, outside of court, with the support of a professional team.  Each of you have your own separate lawyers prohibited from taking your case to court and to give you independent legal advice, and there are usually also neutral specialists to help in finances and family dynamics.

Here’s how it helps in a down market:

  • Customized Financial Scenarios: A neutral financial professional can work with both spouses to explain investment values, simulate recovery scenarios, and suggest creative ways to divide assets based on both of your interests and risk tolerances—even in uncertain times.
  • Avoiding a Fire Sale: Collaborative teams counsel you to maintain the status quo until there is an agreement to do otherwise, which can help you avoid the rush to liquidate investments, allowing you to stay true to your long-term financial strategy.
  • Preserving Relationships: Especially important if you’re co-parenting, Collaborative Divorce helps you reduce stress and focus on your future, not just your fears.

👤 Led by a Trusted Collaborative Professional

Adam B. Cordover is a leader in Collaborative Divorce, having trained lawyers, financial professionals, and mental health experts throughout the U.S., Canada, Israel, and France. He also co-authored Building a Successful Collaborative Family Law Practice, a book published by the American Bar Association. With deep experience in complex financial matters, Adam can help guide you through divorce in a way that protects your goals and honors your long-term financial values.

💬 We Can Help

If you’re facing divorce during a volatile market, you’re not alone—and you have options. We can help you make informed, thoughtful decisions that protect your future. Contact Family Diplomacy: A Collaborative Law Firm by clicking the button below.

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Are Real Estate Syndications Considered Marital Property in a Florida Divorce?

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Real estate syndications have become a popular investment strategy for high-net-worth individuals and savvy investors seeking passive income and portfolio diversification. However, if you are facing a divorce in Florida, you may be wondering: Is my investment in a real estate syndication considered marital property? And if so, how is it valued and divided?

The answer depends on several factors, including when the investment was made, how it was funded, and whether any legal agreements protect it. In this post, we’ll explore how Florida law treats real estate syndications in divorce and what you need to know about valuation and division.

Are Real Estate Syndications Marital Property in Florida?

In Florida, marital property includes assets acquired by either spouse during the marriage, regardless of whose name is on the title or investment documents. Conversely, nonmarital (or separate) property includes assets acquired before the marriage, through inheritance, or via a gift from a third party.

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How Tax Loss Harvesting Can Turn Non-Marital Investments Into Marital Assets

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If you’re an investor going through a divorce, you likely have a keen eye on your finances. You may already be familiar with tax loss harvesting, a strategy that can help reduce your tax bill by selling investments at a loss to offset capital gains. While this technique can be a smart financial move, it can also have unintended consequences in divorce—potentially turning what you thought was your separate, non-marital property into a shared marital asset.

What Is Tax Loss Harvesting?*

Tax loss harvesting is a strategy that can be used to lower your tax liability. For example, if you have investments in a taxable brokerage account that have lost value, you can sell them at a loss to offset capital gains from other investments. This reduces your overall taxable income and can lead to significant tax savings.

There are many rules associated with tax loss harvesting.  For example, you cannot sell a mutual fund at a loss and then immediately repurchase that same mutual fund.  However, one strategy that many investors utilize is to sell one investment at a loss and then purchase a similar, but different, investment.  For example, you might sell VTSAX, the Vanguard U.S. total stock market index fund, at a loss and purchase VFIAX, the Vanguard S&P 500 index fund, which is highly correlated with VTSAX.  The White Coat Investor website has a really good explainer on tax loss harvesting.

Many investors use this approach as part of a long-term financial strategy, reinvesting the proceeds into different securities to maintain their investment portfolio. However, if you are going through a divorce, you must be careful about how and when you execute tax loss harvesting.

*Please note that we are not accountants, financial advisors, or tax lawyers, this information is not intended to provide advice, and this is for educational purposes only.

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Collaborative Divorce: Control Your Own Destiny

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When you’re facing the difficult decision to divorce, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. And when you are used to making high stakes decisions, the feeling of powerlessness is just unacceptable. Decisions about your family, finances, and future carry immense weight. The last thing you want is to surrender control of your destiny to a judge in a public courtroom. That’s why many C-Suite executives, doctors, business owners, high-ranking military officers, and other professionals in Florida choose Collaborative Divorce.

What Is Collaborative Divorce?

Collaborative Divorce is a unique and private approach to family law that puts you and your spouse in charge. Instead of battling it out in court, you work together with a team of professionals to craft agreed upon solutions tailored to your family’s needs. Each of you have your own separate lawyers to provide you with independent legal advice.  The Collaborative Lawyers are there solely for the purpose of reaching an out-of-court agreement, and are prohibited, once the Collaborative Process begins, from being used to fight in court.  Additionally, your Collaborative Team may include a financial expert to navigate tricky financial discussions and a Facilitator (who is a licensed mental health professional) to keep discussion focused on the future rather than the disputes that led to the divorce.

Maintain Control Over Critical Decisions

Unlike traditional litigation, Collaborative Divorce fosters cooperation rather than conflict. You, your spouse, and your lawyers share the same goal: to find resolutions that work for everyone in your family. This approach gives you the power to decide how to divide assets, plan for your children’s future, and address any other issues that arise. Instead of a judge dictating your future, you together with your spouse maintain control over these critical decisions.

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Simplifying Divorce for High Net Worth Individuals: Working With Your CPA or Financial Advisor

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The Challenge of Divorce for High Net Worth Individuals

Navigating a divorce is never easy, and for high net worth individuals, the process can feel even more overwhelming. Between managing the complexities of Florida Family Law Rule of Procedure 12.285—commonly known as mandatory disclosure—and safeguarding your financial future, it’s natural to want to simplify the experience and delegate much of the work. That’s where a skilled family law attorney can be invaluable. By working closely with your CPA or financial advisor, we can streamline the disclosure process and minimize the demands on your time and energy.

Understanding Mandatory Disclosure

Mandatory disclosure requires each party in a divorce to provide detailed financial documentation. For high net worth individuals, this often includes extensive information about investments, business interests, real estate holdings, and more. The sheer volume of documentation can be daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. If you already have a trusted CPA or financial advisor, they are likely familiar with much of your financial landscape. Our team can work directly with them to gather and organize the required information, so you don’t have to get bogged down in the details.

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