General information on dissolution of marriage
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The following is sound advice from Mark Chinn regarding keeping track of legal documents (such as prenuptial agreements and final judgments):
I recently heard of a case where the parties are in the midst of a divorce and the prenuptial agreement signed by the parties cannot be located. It may have been part of an “old document purge” by the law firm that drafted it. I suggest that clients retain the originals of important documents and that they place them in a bank safe deposit box or a home, fire proof, safe.
Under chapter 61, Florida Statutes, a Florida court generally has jurisdiction for a new custody case (such as (i) divorce involving children’s issues/parenting plan, (ii) paternity/ establishment of time-sharing schedule, or (iii) temporary or concurrent custody of a child by a relative) only if one of the following is true:
Once a couple makes the decision to separate or divorce, one of the most difficult steps will be to discuss this decision with a child. Risa Garon, a licensed clinical social worker, certified mediator, and Executive Director of the National Family Resiliency Center, Inc., provides the following advice regarding how to discuss an impending separation or divorce with a child:
1. Before you tell the children, speak to your spouse and decide what you will tell the children. Both parents should have the opportunity to speak.
2. Say what you think will be most helpful to them. Many parents want to tell exactly what happened in their adult relationship to their children. Parents can explain to their children how what they want to tell them will help them in understanding the separation.
Jeanie Goldstein over at the Divorce Saloon provides a female’s perspective on ten things you can do to make a good impression in a family law courtroom:
1. Wear the right colors – by this I mean the right color for you. There is a science to this. When you wear the right color for you, you are more attractive and tend to have a more favorable impression on people. So don’t wear bright yellow if you can’t pull off that color. Don’t wear black if it makes you look depressed. Don’t wear white if it makes you look washed out. That sort of thing. Get the idea? Wear the right color for you.
2. Wear the right outfits – Don’t go into court looking like a trollop or like an ax murderer. It is an important and impactful event, your divorce, and you should dress respectfully. Think Lindsay Lohan. The girl might be clueless about proper life decorum but have you seen her when she has a court appearance? Very ladylike and stylish I must say.
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In a divorce proceeding, the court will divide the parties’ marital property and debts in a process called “equitable distribution.” The court starts with the presumption that property should be divided equally, but it may adjust the distribution based on various factors including (i) the relative economic circumstances of the parties, (ii) any interruption of personal careers or educational opportunities, and (iii) the intentional waste or destruction of assets.
Retirement accounts require special attention during the equitable distribution process. George Saenz at Fox Business News discusses this:
Not only are you getting separated from your spouse, but also your money. An individual retirement account, or IRA, belongs to the spouse that established it. You generally cannot transfer money from one spouse’s IRA to the other spouse’s account. An exception exists in the case of a divorce.
Divorce Saloon offers an interesting top 10 of how a gentleman should act during divorce:
1. Don’t call your soon to be ex-wife and her (female) lawyer by choice names.
2. If you are a public figure, refuse to air dirty laundry and speak about your wife’s private parts (Roseann Barr’s ex Tom Arnold, for example, made some references to her privates that very much were ungentlemanly, to say the least).
3. Don’t respond to violence from your spouse or with violence to your spouse.
4. Gentlemen can curse, but don’t go Mel Gibson.
Rose McDermott at the Wall Street Journal reports that cases of polygamy are becoming more common in Western countries:
Polygamy—or more specifically polygyny, the marriage of one man to more than one woman—has been widespread in human history. And it is becoming increasingly common, particularly in Muslim enclaves—including in Paris, London and New York.
A 2006 report by the National Consultative Commission on Human Rights reported that approximately 180,000 people were living in polygamous households in France. For decades, France allowed entrance to polygamous immigrants from about 50 countries where the practice was legal. When the French government banned polygamy in 1993, it tried to support the decohabitation of such couples if a wife wanted to move into her own apartment with her children.
In Britain, where immigration laws have banned the practice for longer, there appear to be about a thousand valid polygamous marriages, mostly among immigrants who married elsewhere, such as in Pakistan. Such families are allowed to collect social security benefits for each wife, although the government has apparently not counted how many are doing so.
In the United States, where numbers are more difficult to come by, anecdotal reports indicate underground communities of polygamists in New York City, particularly among immigrant communities from West Africa.
In Florida, one person cannot legally marry someone who is currently married to someone else. Further, Florida does not recognize polygamist “marriages” that occur outside of the state or country.
So, does a person who has been in such a relationship, either knowingly or unwittingly (i.e., one party did not know that the other party was already married), have legal protections?
Thank you to Uninterrupted TV for providing a link to “Navigating the Teen Years: A Parent’s Handbook for Raising Healthy Teens.”
This pamphlet is written by the National Youth Anti-Drug Media Campaign in cooperation with the American Academy of Pediatrics, National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, National Prevention Network, NYU Child Study Center, and Parent Corps.
