Tag Archive for: divorce

Garon: 8 Tips for Co-Parenting During the Holidays

Winter break can be one of the most difficult times for both children and parents to cope with divorce.  We see Christmas and New Years cheer and celebration everywhere as we are dealing with our own internal and external stressors that make the mere sight of such images so painful.  However, we must dedicate all of our strength to keep this period of time as happy and stable as possible for our children.

Risa Garon, a licensed clinical social worker, collaborative law mental health professional, and Executive Director of the National Family Resiliency Center, Inc., provides tips for co-parenting during the holidays:

  1. What can you as a parent handle? Be honest with yourself and how you feel.
  2. Be honest with your children about your limitations and what you can handle. Approach them in a way that doesn’t burden them with your feelings. Ask them what would help them during the holidays.
  3. Recognize that rituals are symbolic and often treasured by children and adults. If possible, try to have some of your family’s traditional rituals and include your children in creating new ones. Read more

Video: News Report on Collaborative Divorce

Below is a news report on collaborative divorce from KTLA 5:

Attorney Adam B. Cordover has completed advanced training in interdisciplinary  collaborative family law and is a member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals as well as the Collaborative Divorce Institute of Tampa Bay.

If you would like to speak with a collaborative lawyer in Tampa Bay and learn how the collaborative process can help your family, call The Law Firm of Adam B. Cordover, P.A., at 813-443-0615 or fill out our contact form.

Vast Changes Proposed to Florida Alimony Statute

Permanent Alimony?  A thing of the past.  Standard of living during the marriage?  That factor is so passe.  Payments past retirement?  Not any more.

These are just a few of the vast changes that will be made to section 61.08 of the Florida Statutes (the “Alimony Statute”) if the current version of House Bill 549 is passed and signed into law.  Below you will find the proposed changes to the Alimony Statute (proposed additional language is underlined while proposed deletions are stricken):

61.08 Alimony.—
(1) In a proceeding for dissolution of marriage under s. 61.052(1)(a), the court may grant alimony to either party, which alimony may be bridge-the-gap, rehabilitative, durational, or long-term permanent in nature or any combination of these forms of alimony. In any award of alimony, the court may order periodic payments or payments in lump sum or both, which may not exceed 20 percent of the payor’s monthly net income to include all sources of income averaged over the last 3 years of the marriage. The court may consider the adultery of either spouse and the circumstances thereof in determining the amount of alimony, if any, to be awarded. In all dissolution actions, the court shall include findings of fact relative to the factors enumerated in subsection (2) supporting an award or denial of alimony.

Factors in Relocating with a Child

If you are or have been involved in a child custody case and you wish to move with your child, you must make sure to follow the procedures of section 61.13001, Florida Statutes (the “Relocation Statute”).

Often times, parents are able to come to an agreement on relocation.  The Relocation Statute has specific requirements for the agreement, and the agreement must be filed with the court and ratified by a judge.

But what if you and the other parent cannot come to an agreement?  What specific factors does a judge look at to determine if relocation is in a child’s best interests?

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Video: Divorce Sale

After a spouse gets a divorce, he or she may find it therapeutic on the mind and wallet to purge many of the items equitably distributed to him or her:

Keep in mind that (unless you are in agreement with the other spouse or have an order from the court) you should wait until the divorce is final prior to selling your items.  Otherwise, you may be accused of wasting or attempting to hide assets that would otherwise be eligible for the judge to split up during the equitable distribution phase of your case.

If you have questions regarding the division of assets and liabilities and you are seeking to hire a Tampa Bay divorce lawyer, contact The Law Firm of Adam B. Cordover, P.A., at (813) 443-0615 or fill out our online form.

Potential Disadvantages of Collaborative Law

Though I have advocated the use of the collaborative process in family law cases (for example, here, here, and here), it is only fair to note that there may be disadvantages to a collaborative law case.  Jon Crouch over at The Family Law New Blog explores some of those potential disadvantages:

1. In litigation, you can use the timing and immense stress and fear of impending trials to get people to sign settlements they never would agree to if they actually had time to consider them.

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Pew Report Observes Non-Resident Fathers

A recent report conducted by the Pew Research Center’s Social and Demographics Trends project makes some interesting findings:

  • “Absent” or “non-resident” fathers are defined as those that do no live with their children;
  • The number of children not living with their father has doubled from 1960 to 2010;
  • Four in ten non-resident fathers communicate with their children several times a week, while one in five spend time with their children more than once a week;
  • One in three non-resident fathers report that they talk or exchange e-mail with their children less than once a month; and
  • Twenty-seven percent of absent fathers say they have not seen the children at all in the past year.

In Florida, generally speaking, each parent has a right to spend time with his or her children, and each parent has a responsibility to contribute financially to the child’s support.  If there is a court order pertaining to child custody, these rights and responsibilities can usually be enforced by contempt.

If you have questions regarding paternity or child custody and you wish to speak with a Florida family law lawyer, contact The Law Firm of Adam B. Cordover, P.A., by calling us at (813) 443-0615 or filling out our online form.

Relocation With A Child Outside of Florida

If your child has ever been subject to a custody proceeding (such as divorce, paternity, or temporary custody), then you are likely restricted in where you can move with the child under section 61.13001, Florida Statutes.  This law, known as the “Relocation Statute,” prevents a parent from moving a child more than 50 miles except under certain circumstances.

The first circumstance allowing relocation is if both parents agree.  However, strict requirements must be followed.  The agreement must:

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Updated Parenting Education and Stabilization Course Provider List

Pursuant to section 61.21, Florida Statutes, all parties in a divorce or paternity matter in which custody is an issue are required to attend a 4-hour Parenting Education and Stabilization Course.  Periodically, the Department of Children and Family Services publish an updated list of approved parenting course providers.

You can find the latest list of approved parenting course providers (updated November 4, 2011) here.

If you have questions regarding child custody and you wish to schedule a consultation with a Tampa Bay custody lawyer, contact The Law Firm of Adam B. Cordover, P.A., at 813-443-0615 or fill out our online form.

What is Collaborative Divorce About?

You may have heard of collaborative divorce, which is a new, innovative form of family law that puts people above process.  Courtesy of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, below you will find “Collaborative Practice at a Glance”:

  • Encourages mutual respect.
  • Emphasizes the needs of children.
  • Avoids going to court.

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