I recently was reviewed by a former client on the Facebook Page for Family Diplomacy: A Collaborative Law Firm. The client discusses the need to determine whether the style of an attorney you may use in your divorce is focused on encouraging fighting and earning the billable hour or encouraging collaboration and focusing on your family.
FLORIDA BAR NOTICE: Each case is different, and you may not retain the same or similar results.
Family Diplomacy gives couples the clarity to ‘keep it real’ despite any ill feelings, spite, or negativity.
My experience was a difficult one as we offered a collaborative approach toward our divorce, but the other party’s firm made the decision for my former spouse [and would not agree to do it collaboratively] – thus taking all money awarded to her from my 401k, and other payments from her.
It is difficult to think rationally when you are letting others drive your anger or spite towards the other party. I highly encourage everyone to first do all you can to stay married and happy, but if not, contact Adam and talk before you decide to take any other approach – especially [if] there are children involved. The money taken from you, is money you could have used for your children. Lots of firms will encourage you to fight and extend the process.
Billable hours! That’s how they make their money for their own children.
Don’t be fooled! In the end – everything will be split as it should be – no one wins – everyone loses. Accept that fact and move on.
I found Adam to be fair and straight forward with me on absolutely everything. He did not excessively bill time – he always had the finish line in mind, not the next billable hour.
He can be trusted to help you through this whole process, and he is seen as a leader in this practice of collaborative divorce.
Call him. Finish your marriage if you have to and live happily ever after. Best of luck to all!!
Five out of five stars.
Adam B. Cordover is co-author of an upcoming American Bar Association book on Building a Successful Collaborative Law Practice. Adam is former president of Next Generation Divorce, growing it to become Florida’s largest collaborative practice group, and a founding member and principal trainer of the Tampa Bay Collaborative Trainers.